Nbumblebee thank you for your reply. I waited till the kids left then it was (detail removed by Moderator) years after that i left i went into a womens refuge for 3 months and moved out of the area. The problem was that the kids still lived in the area and they saw him a lot more than me as i was (detail removed by Moderator) miles away. It was then that he started to play the victim and telling everyone how hard done to he gad been. He got a new girlfriend a few wewks after id gone and is still with her but her kids hate him he calls her names and humiliates her. They dont live together. When i first met her (detail removed by Moderator) she was absoluty petrified of me. She told me he had told her I was a psycho and she feared for her life. (Detail removed by Moderator). I couldnt fight my way out of a paper bag and when i left I couldnt care less what he was up to i felt totally indifferent towards him all my feelinfs had gone she was not an issue for me. I lived in a different area for (detail removed by Moderator) years but came back as I missed my children so much. Dont get me wrong, we were still in touch and i did all the babysitting grandchildren bit. However, I came back to find that him and his girlfriend were heavily involved with my children socially and it was me that had to fit into their in crowd which i did to keep the peace and we tried to be civil. However (detail removed by Moderator). I felt even after 15 years right back to where i was before i left. I have not spoken to him since and will not do so ever again so he is now badmouthing me and turning everyone against me. I dont get invited out by my children anymore as he is always out with them. I feel I am still being controlled and want to move away from the area this is why I have turned to the survivors site for advice
