dirtylaundry

[dirtylaundry]

highjacking your thread for a minute.

*I can’t figure out how to make a post here. can anyone help me?

[dirtylaundry]

definitely abusive in so many ways- lying, manipulation, threatening to shoot you, threatening to take your children away, joyous at your pain (of the [detail removed by Moderator] situation), sexual abuse, coercion. I could go on and on. He’s not going to change. Sounds like he is thriving and joyous. Ask yourself the hard questions. Make your feelings the only ones that matter. How often have you done that? I know I never have.
I’m brand new to this page as of today. We gotta keep talking with each other to gain the strength to leave relationships we know are abusive. I’m struggling with accepting it myself.
xoxo

[dirtylaundry]

thank you for sharing your family’s history and your story with me. the undercurrent of fear is always there. it is no way to live but the only way I have. I am so scared to leave but terrified to continue living this way.

the most horrific incident was recent (removed by moderator as it had too much detail and could’ve been triggering.) it went ugly far.
i’m sure if it had been read I would be told by everyone to leave now.

[dirtylaundry]

copying part of my reply to you because I’m mentally fried. your wise words and compassion and support has me crying.

thank you for your reply. I have been seeing a therapist by myself for a couple years. I realized after reading your post and the other that marriage therapy is not needed. HE needs therapy by himself. this is a “him” issue. you’re correct. myself and our children walk on eggshells and have forever. thanks for the recommended reading. appreciate it!

the most horrific incident was recent (removed by moderator as it had too much detail and could’ve been triggering.) it went ugly far.
i’m sure if it had been read I would be told by everyone to leave now.

[dirtylaundry]

thank you for your reply. I have been seeing a therapist by myself for a couple years. I realized after reading your post and the other that marriage therapy is not needed. HE needs therapy by himself. this is a “him” issue. you’re correct. myself and our children walk on eggshells and have forever. thanks for the recommended reading. appreciate it!

the most horrific incident was recent (removed by moderator as it had too much detail and could’ve been triggering.) it went ugly far.
i’m sure if it had been read I would be told by everyone to leave now.

[dirtylaundry]

however, my post is not appearing. it’s been a couple hours.

[dirtylaundry]

thank you! figured it out : )

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