Thank you for your reply and for where I can find advise. A part of me knows the relationship is wrong but a part of me is thinkkng I can fix it if I just keep quiet agree with everything he says try not to mention anything about me it will be OK we are just going through a bad patch but it does appear to be the worse he has ever been I cant get away from his shouting. (Detail removed by moderator) I mentioned something just chatting and that was it pure rage leaning over me shouting so I walked up stairs into the spare room hoping he would calm down and he followed me in leaning over the bed shouting telling me what I am. Its my fault everything is going to pot its me I get on his nerves all the time. I try to justify myself apologise for upsetting him nothing works.