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He tells me that I let me emotions get in the way and I’m not doing things in the best interests for our children (or my other child) and I’m putting myself before their needs (their needs being having their dad stay over so they get more time with daddy). I’m the terrible girlfriend for not bringing the children the 100 miles to see him and his mum. I sit at night thinking am I letting me emotions dictate?, am i not putting my childrens best interests first? and am i a terrible person for not taking the children to see their sick grandma? I dont know my own thoughts at times

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His mum is not capable of taking charge of a situation as she is too I’ll now house bound and almost bed ridden. I should also mention his past history of violent behaviour is also against his mum he use to get violent with her when drinking and hes been to prison several times for it. But courts did not take any of that into consideration when they gave him in supervised accsess. In a way that’s why I agreed for him to stay over at mine to see the children as I could supervise and make sure they are safe. I couldn’t trust his mum to inform anyone if things were happening as she knew if she did she wouldnt get to see the children too as shes not in a position to be able to travel herself

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I’ve tried using contact centres in the past. While going through family courts when he faught for contact with our eldest the courts paid for it for so many weeks. After that it was down to me or him to pay and it’s quite expensive. I work but only part time and on a low income it’s not something I can afford and he flatly refuses to pay as he doesnt work. He has a court order saying hes to have un supervised contact with our eldest which I’ve said he can take them out when he wants or even have them over at his mums for the weekend. But uses every excuse not to take them out or have them on his own at his mums. It has to be either here at mine or I’m to travel with the children to his mums (which is over 100 miles away from where we live) I dont drive so it would mean buses and trains. If I have a different opinion to him, refuse to do something or suggest an alternative. I’m being the awkward one I’m the horrible vindictive bitch, I’m the one using the children to hurt him and his mum. I’m unreasonable and being argumentative and difficult etc etc
I’ve said to go back to court as we cant agree on steps forward he says no. If I do that he will stop all maintenance money and he threatens me with comming to get money off me his mum as given me over the years when I’ve been short at times.
He tells me I should be ashamed of my behaviour for how good he and his mum has been over the years to us. I’ve given our eldest a mobile phone to be able to call/Skype him when ever they want. But he tries to over step the mark calling late at night, questioning our child on me/what we have been doing, where we are or where we have been and who with. He says I play the victim alot and get everyone to feel sorry for me as they only hear my side of events and not his and if my family were to listen to him they would agree that hes right and that I must be suffering from some mental health issue and if social services were to get involved again they will remove the children because I lied and covered up things years ago when our eldest was a baby.
His words just constantly go round my head and I cant think straight anymore. I’m totally lost

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