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`hi, around here there are no solicitors who offer 30 minutes free, i was given a list by my local CAB who said they can’t help but these people can so to speak, they all cost hundreds even for 30 mins initial.

i have spoke with my local council and they have also said they cannot do anything to help as its joint even though DA is a breach of their tenancy, they said ‘continue reporting it to police etc’. So thats a dead end too. I feel like im stuck in this situation, i have tried to leave prior to even having a new partner and had the same problems.

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I haven’t been here in 6 months not much has changed except there is no physical abuse. Just mental. Having a go everytime I say something even remotely questioning. I want to tell him to leave but again I’m scared of the financial sid effects and I have a permanent injury unrelated that makes me wonder if I’d cope on my own. I’m at my wits end and I know I should have left him sooner but it’s the niceness that gets me everytime.

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Thank you all i phoned the police and they said they would now send someone out to see us this afternoon in the mean time keep my doors locked. Yes i agree he doesn’t have their best interest at heart but my daughter says to me i miss daddy etc. it hurts to hear her say that.

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Hello all, its been (detail removed by moderator) months of nothing happening and all being ok but (detail removed by moderator) he kicked off screaming in my face with my kids around scaring them half to death, called the police they haven’t been out (bit bad really)hes left temporarily basically geering at me to come find him if i can. Im still worried about my tenancy and finances (benefits being made to go on universal credit and the long wait with a disabled child).

Im not sure what to do anymore to be honest. If the police do come out, my local womens aid hasnt really been any help in the past i cant see it changing :/. thats why ive turned back to here.

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Hey, yes but then I’d feel guilty about putting him on the street since he wouldn’t have anywhere to go. He is my kids dad after all. Abusive or not. I think the way I feel is strange but I’m just a compasionate person and want the best for everyone even if they aren’t the nicest.

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I’m so torn right now. I really don’t know what to do. I recently found I was pregnant and had a miscarriage a week later (he doesn’t know). One of my children especially is a daddy’s girl. I feel so bad that I’d be ripping them away from him. I feel like they would hate me. I want to stay here where I live now but he won’t leave so I don’t know what to do anymore.

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Hello All,
Thank you for your replies. I have no opportunity to ring the helpline as my ‘partner’ doesn’t work hasn’t for a little while. So he’s home all the time. I’ve been to my local WA in the past to be told “if you won’t help yourself we can’t help you” they basically want me to go into refuge. Which in my circumstances I cannot do which is why I haven’t. Unfortunately it’s pretty important my family well one of my children in particular stays in the area. I can’t go to CA without him knowing and probably asking questions about why I’m going out since I don’t go out. I don’t have any family I’m in touch with anymore so it’s just me and my children. This why I turned to here for advice. I have no idea what to do and where to go next.

Edit:
One of my children has a disability which is why money is so imperative to keep us going a 6 week wait for UC would just about cripple us.

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Thank you x I claim all the benefits I made sure I was main claimant now I know why.

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I am the main claimant. I did it when he lost his job. So I would be ok you reckon?

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