hopefulvictim

[hopefulvictim]

Thank you all for your wonderful comments and support. It’s genuinely heartwarming. I was so surprised that the police are taking what I said so seriously. I didn’t think that it deserved so much attention. I’ve certainly struggled with my sense of identity. I had previously thought that I was a well-educated and very self-aware person. I thought that I knew my husband almost as well as I knew myself, and I was really thought that the love between us was the most precious thing in my life. I never thought that I would be victim to this kind of behaviour. Reconciling with the idea that I didn’t recognise it for what it was for so long has had a significant effect on the trust that I have in my own perception of events. I’m a lot more unsure of myself than I was before; I’m question all my decisions to the n-th degree. This has been very unsettling for me to deal with.

[hopefulvictim]

Thank you all for your support. To reply to Iwantmeback in particular, what you say about him being nice in between really resonates with me. My ex-husband would do that too, he would take me on nice meals out and give me nice gifts. But then he would say things like (detail removed by Moderator) and (detail removed by Moderator). It was all part of the emotional abuse I see that now.

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