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UPDATE: Thank you for all your words of kindness. I haven’t been on here in a while. It’s been awful. I am now officially giving up the fight. The police won’t help me get my stuff from my house.
Social services have now reported the children should live with him so back in court I shall lose them. My ex has now fully divorced me , he did not do a settlement.
I am in a job and will survive. At least I am alive.
My ex has a new woman and moved her into my home by law I cannot come off the mortgage without his agreement and he was very clear if I left he would keep my kids, the house and all my things. I am going to build myself a new life now accepting the fact that women have very few rights in the British Court system. I am now single, divorced, penniless and about to be separated from my own children. I will hug them goodbye next week as they go to school and will be unlikely to see them again. He doesn’t allow them to contact me when they are with him now. The schools, the law, social services all rallied to my abuser and have helped him with his goal. My baby will cry for me every night and no one will ever know. My eldest has been twisted into a teenage perpetrator.

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Don’t give up. I am going through similar stuff to you. I went to the police and filed harassment due to unwanted emails. Get new phone number and don’t share. If the court is involved then you must have a solicitor- send a nasty letter saying what contact by him is accepted and what is not. I have really bad days my ex says he is gay now but has my ex best friend sleeping over – a lot – and has told the kids they are an item.
I find the courts are pro abuser not pro abused but stick to their plan and keep yourself ‘clean’ even when you want to let rip don’t.
It is frustrating that the abuse doesn’t stop when you run. It is agonising at times but remember you took control- you left that means on some level in his head you won! Enjoy your freedom from the abuse I agree everyday is tough at times and contact days are awful. But surely if we all stick together it will be ok in the end. Accept any counselling , it gIves you a place to be honest and private. Good luck. I believe in karma I just hope one day you will be able to see karma on your abuser.

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