Hi.
I tried to divorce (removed by moderator) , after only a very short marriage & severe verbal, emotional,financial & sexual abuse. He became aggressive & angry & violent and went crazy, when my solicitor told him I was sending the petition & he piggy backed my solicitor & wrote many letters to them saying he had been “set up” his mother ranted at me how much he loved me, how he would give up the alcohol & go to counselling. Long story, but I went back. I had no family who I could stay with, would have had to go into a safe house. I had hope & believed the lies. (Removed by moderator) later,he’s completely broken me, left me with no strength of character penniless, fearful of my life, still abusing me by denying his abuse, making out he is the victim. He has been arrested, but denying the accusations. He’s still indirectly abusing me, & playing mind games & lying to his & my solicitor & the police. My advice is, please dont be at all tempted to go back, get out now, even for a moment, however hard it is now, you will get through the this. If you are in fear of him now, it will only get worse. Read up & reaserch as much as you can about abuse & try & un attach your emotional bond with him. If an acquaintance treated you this way, it would be unacceptable. A loving caring responsible man, would not treat you this way. You are stronger than you know right now. Keep a record of everything & speak to your GP/nurse practitioner, see friends and family & research abusive narcissistic behaviour. I have lots of links if you would like me to share them, it helps make sense of it all. Take great care of yourself & your children & stay safe.
