I would say run girl run as far as you can. I do recommend u to listen to psychologists, coaches on you tube about domestic abuse. It has opened my eyes ,personally. The first thing you need to realize its that – from what you say/write- that this is abuse. this is the first step you need to take in order to start healing. Please remember that actions speak lauder than words. What does he do to show you that he loves you: he cheats, calls u names, belittle you, rip you of your dignity, destroys your confidence, lies about caring for you, makes u give up on your family- what person who love would do all that. You are your own intelligent beautiful self- you are capable of looking after yourself, don’t need anybody else for that.
I wish you all the best in your journey.
Its not going to be easy, but its going to be worth living in a normal functional relationship- where you are loved, cherished, respected.