NikNaks1001

[NikNaks1001]

Hi, thanks again.

I’ve been to the go today who took details of my problem etc so that is on file.

It has spurred me on because I want to protect my daughter.

Has anyone had luck with saying you need space and you’re leaving for a little while to stay with parents but with no actual plan to return?

Or is that unsafe?

Thanks!

[NikNaks1001]

Thank you again to everyone taking time to respond. It’s definitely making me jump off the fence about stay/leave

[NikNaks1001]

Absolutely hear you, thank you. I haven changed my mind on that one.

Tomorrow’s plan is to go to the gp for ‘thrush’ which is actually to make a full disclosure 🤞🏻

Next week I will try find my local women’s aid and go from there.

I’m beyond scared 😣 I’m still acting 100% normal with him, is that awful of me? Like it’s going to be a shock to him I think, the guilt is just horrendous.

[NikNaks1001]

Thank you to everyone for your replies they mean more than you will ever know.

So at the moment we are ‘playing happy families’ so I just continue this till I have a plan?

I’m hopefully telling his parents this weekend who I am really close to about his history which he knows about, he said they know but I don’t believe that. He won’t be there and I feel safe doing so.

I’m in touch with the local council where my parents live to see what my rights are regarding benefits etc.

I’m scared I’ll regret it but in my heart I know I won’t.

How long does it normally take from making the decision to actually leaving?

I have no money and I feel guilty that my daughters life will change so much we will have such a different life style with a lot lot less money.

I’m worried about him being awkward about seeing her. He loves to be stubborn and awkward to make things difficult for everyone else, and his family are very very aware of this too. He does it to them too, they’ve seen him snap at me verbally too and so have my parents so I don’t think they will be shocked.

I’ve got an emergency bag and an escape plan should I need it.

But am I wrong by still acting normal with him?

Thanks again

[NikNaks1001]

Thank you for your reply, I haven’t spoke to the police, as usual I tried to keep the peace. I feel embarrassed just saying that because I know it’s the wrong thing to do!

If I contact the police is it to late? It happened just before Xmas?

[NikNaks1001]

So tonight he asked me why I’m being distant etc etc and calmly challenged me wanting to know what’s up etc etc. I managed to just brush it off but he’s on to me so I think I need to move fast now.

[NikNaks1001]

Oh gosh I hope you’re ok newbeginnings!

My next plan of action I think, is to tell my parents. They don’t particularly like him and they’ve called the police out on him before so I know they won’t be surprised but I feel so ashamed and embarrassed having to tell them and move back to my childhood home with my little one. I totally know it’s for the best but wow this isn’t how my life was meant to be. 💔

[NikNaks1001]

Thank you for your replies.

Another worry of mine is that I won’t be able to hold it together or prove anything.

I’ve got pictures from this last incident but the previous ive always deleted them when we reached the ‘honeymoon’ period 🙄. I can provide a good history but if I give this to the police, will it be enough?

Thank you

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