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Thank you I have called the help line a few weeks ago when I needed help in how to respond to him getting annoyed about the clothes I chose to wear. What he was saying wasn’t true but I didn’t jknow how to counter his argument, I didn’t know how to convince him. I called to see if there was a way of responding to it because I didn’t want to lose the relationship over a few outfits. That’s what I thought at the time. It’s like with the cameras I wasn’t sure if he’s actually right and it’s a normal caring thing to want to know where I am.

My instincts are now telling me it’s not normal.

[Notmyrealname]

Hi Bananaboat. He was always telling me if he went somewhere but I didn’t ask him to he just started to do it and it’s become normal now. But like I said I just trust that what he says is true. I’d rather be free to meet up with friends then have the constant monitoring. I haven’t seen any of my friends, my best friend is a male we’re like brother and sister and when I made plans to catch up with him my partner asked me if I’d had sex with my friend and said my friend probably does want to have sex with me. Bearing in mind he’s in a long term relationship and just bought a house together. We would never do that we’re purely platonic we’re like siblings. So I have no contact with outside apart from the supermarket, especially now that school is over and I don’t see any mums.

This forum is good for me.

[Notmyrealname]

Thank you I have called the help line a few weeks ago when I needed help in how to respond to him getting annoyed about the clothes I chose to wear. What he was saying wasn’t true but I didn’t know how to counter his argument, I didn’t know how to convince him. I called to see if there was a way of responding to it because I didn’t want to lose the relationship over a few outfits. That’s what I thought at the time. It’s like with the cameras I wasn’t sure if he’s actually right and it’s a normal caring thing to want to know where I am.

My instincts are now telling me it’s not normal.

[Notmyrealname]

Thank you for the book recommendations. What you say about one rule for him, he said I was making it one rule for ME and a different rule for him by going somewhere and not telling him beforehand. I’ve never asked him to tell me his every move but he does text me if he’s going somewhere on his way over and so I kind of feel like he created this way of being. But I have NO way of knowing if what he texts me is true as there’s no cameras on him. I trust him that he’s going where he says he’s going I don’t need him to tell me his every move. But after this event of me going out and telling him later he then said he would deliberately go somewhere and not tell me because I can’t have it one way for me and another for him. I never asked for the constant information, and also that makes him sound calculated.

I don’t have any support but now I’ve found this I can’t tell you how much better I felt when I saw someone had actually read and replied to me. So thank you.

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