Paris

[Paris]

Hi ladies! Feeling settled now when I fist araised I felt like I was dreaming .. it was all so unbelievable that I finally got the courage to leave him. As I left home I was so scared but the closer I got to arriving in the refuge I felt free and happy I had done this. I feel really safe here.. really free it’s like a freedom I havent experienced b4. My baby is doing well and I’m so happy I’m beginning a new life for him and myself. I have heard today that refuge is only for a term of six months when you arrive … hearing this today has made me worry as what if I don’t sort out a new home b4 then. I have so many questions about how I can move forward now just hoping things go well for us. Thank u all so much hearing of different experience makes me stronger. XxParis

[Paris]

Hi everyone – it’s been a rough few months but I’m so happy to say I left for refuge yesterday. I feel really safe and relieved he cannot harm me anymore. My baby and near are doing great I just now want to focus on getting on with my new life and finding us a new place for us to live our lives free from violence xxx

[Paris]

Thank you all for the support and advice – I know I need to do this for myself and baby to be safe, I’m trying to prepare myself to leave, he watches my every move so closely even keeping my letters and i.d so he can monitor what i’m doing I know once I am going I am going to need to grab everything I can and get out as soon as possible. It does help having a really supportive family but he also tries keeping me away from my family. The police have been involved twice previously and both of those times He claimed he would change and stop treating me this way .. it never changes. I feel really upset with myself for being abused by him over and over but it has been so hard to leave constantly feeling scared. Now I have had the baby I have more freedom to leave and go out as I have things like playgroup and clinic to attend for baby so this could be an opportunity i can take to go to refuge… Im trying to get it all straight in my head. I havn’t had any kind of support locally to me really and I dont really know of any services close to me i can access for the support I need. I have tried to go to the council and inform them of the fact I’m experiencing abuse but nothing has been done in terms of my housing to be able to escape this. Its like i hit a brick wall with it each time. I will call the helpline today as he has gone out for a while. Thanks again ladies for the courage xxx

[Paris]

Thank You for the insight You have provided me with. It sounds like you have had a very hard and awful time im so sorry. My main concern is us being safe right now, he threatens me daily as to if I leave and take the baby as he claims our baby is the best thing thats happened to him. He is never violent toward the baby but seems to take out every fustration on me verbally, physically, mentally and I have had enough. My main concern is this affecting our child so I want to start a new life for us both. I feel so worried and scared about leaving as I have never gone into refuge before. I guess it would be alot easier if i didn’t have a property already, I have so many questions about what will happen once I leave … but i guess i will just need to take the step.

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