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    • #68882
      Petite
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      I really don’t understand why would I still want him after all the hate and cheating so long with b.Now he is in relationship with other girl from same place we all work. I had to go on the sick for (Detail removed by Moderator) coz I can’t handle all the mess and his new relationship and things he say to people in work and all come back to me. People asking me how much weight I lost coz I went from size (Detail removed by Moderator) to size (Detail removed by Moderator) I’m ruined mentally and physically and hurts knowing he just moved on and I’m here heartbroken still wanting him. Pathetic I know . I will move out but all feelings will stay how will I cope….

    • #68638
      Petite
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      Can’t do this anymore. We are renting this house so can’t really do nothing about it. I’m so tired with all this god I’m tired. I just want to leave and sort myself and kids out, Xmas soon and I hav no idea where will I be , might have to spend Xmas in the shelter with kids. God when this night mare will end been suffering badly for whole year. What he done to me it’s broke me and still hurting me and I don’t even want to see him, I’m emotionally scarred of him I got that feeling in my stomach 24/7 I just want to feel like me again… Thank you for support 😪

    • #68605
      Petite
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      Thank you all. I’m so hurt and drained with all this. We been separating for (detail removed by moderator) weeks now and still live under same roof , he got girlfriend already for (detail removed by moderator) weeks and he was playing games with me for (detail removed by moderator) weeks. He tried to sleep with me for like 10 times and it didn’t happen. But I’m so fed up with all this he was all nice (detail removed by moderator) cleaned whole house offered me a hot drink and said he is on break with his girlfriend and he doesn’t want to go see her he will stay at home at focus on kids (detail removed by moderator). But what a surprise got a message saying he will stay late and he might go out for a drink and stay up his friends… What a bullshit when I told him to stop lying then he admitted going over her to spend a night. Why the hell still lie about it. He been lying to me for so long , cheating on me but now he is rubbing their relationship in my face and I couldn’t help it just to let all my pain to him and he just didn’t care he just using it all my pain to hurt me again and laugh about it. How to cope with all this untill I move out? What do I do after? How will i fix myself?

    • #68577
      Petite
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      I have been with my husband over (detail removed by moderator) we got 2 young children now. Last year he asked me for a divorce while I was 7 months pregnant and then he started to be really nasty to me, use to treat me like I mean nothing to him after whole these years and expecialy being pregnant with his child. Whole (detail removed by moderator) he was lying all the time always make up stories, we work in the same place just opposite shifts so everything he did or said it come back to me. I wanted to be with him so I was begging him to stay but didn’t work. So he was trying to kick me out of the house with kids and when I finally decided that i want to leave he went to doctors and got diagnosed with depression so he wanted to sort things out I said ok…. Lasted 6 weeks and he left me again like I mean nothing at all, he was horrible always blamed me for everything made feel like I’m just never be good enough. He was cheating all the time while I was on maternity. So after crying and feeling bad I said ok I’m leaving had enough so I got help from council to rent a house and I was about to leave and 2 days before o went to view a house he told me that he feel suicidal since walked away from me and he told me about girl he was seeing and was really sorry and he loves me and I still stayed now lasted 3 months and things didn’t change I find out he was gambling and had so much debt all lies and secrets started all promises he maid just to get me back didn’t happen… And now again we are separating 6 weeks Still live together and I’m done I’m drained I lost 7kg over few weeks and weigh 45kg just got diagnosed with anxiety and I’m still stuck living with him because I can’t find a house suitable for me and kids around my area and cheap enough. He already got a new girlfriend and she is from work and he keep threating me to bring her in the house while kids here and he knows that hurts me. I’m sat there in the house with him and all I feel is pain and he sat there texting his girlfriend and it hurts me. He was trying on my last 2 weeks he couldn’t bare the fact I don’t want him anymore and I’m not his, he tried to kiss me many times and touch me even tho he has girlfriend how sick is that I’m crazy or its normal for people to do that….Am I over reacting or its a abusive relationship and hardest year of my life….I don’t know what to do nobody seems can help me

    • #68592
      Petite
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      He definitely ruined me. I look at myself and thinking what the hell did happened to me ? I don’t love myself anymore I’m so skinny now just bones left and I used to love myself. I’m scared t get a message of him or what else he will say and do to hurt me. I’ve been to doctors got a anxiety tablets now and got 4 weeks of work coz he is from same place and he manage to know my every step even he works opposite shift. I was in HR yesterday and 10min after I had a message from him asking me why I’m at HR office and I know it was his girlfriend who told him she saw me. He made me look like a joke in everyone eyes all work knows what he is doing and what he said about me but obviously nobody told me for whole year. Now I found out he was sending sexual messages to one of my old friends and basically col her a slag I wish she reported him ,coz 3 years ago he was suspended for same thing but he lied to me he said he was nothing to do with it. He been controling me for so long and I just now realized that’s not normal, how many bad things he said to me how much he is trying to hurt me.. He was staying with his gf for last couple weeks now he is staying here at home and acting like we are something , he said to me yesterday would I sexualy massage his hip ( he fell downstairs another day) I tried to ignore him and said no, why is he acting after all he done to me having a girlfriend we would play family now. He wanted to shave sex with me for the last 3 weeks so that’s why I didn’t believe when he told me he has gf.. I thought if you got gf you moved on and you wouldn’t keep trying on me, and I was rejecting him all the time so he said I don’t want to be with you but still fuck you.. I always thought he has depression that’s why I was always not taking so seriously all the anger issues, screaming while driving, he would stop in the middle of the road and go fight with people and then would balmer me. Whole year been struggling with my emotions once I did tell him that something is up with meight got anxiety so he made feel bad about it and started to look at me like he don’t want me if I’m unhappy and got issues.

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