Thank you for your kind replies.
I have today made an appointment to speak to my doctor about he way I feel, I travel around an hour and a half to work and cried all the way there yesterday I felt so sad inside. I’m not sure anything can make me feel better.
I feel like my relationship with my sons has really suffered over the last 4-5 years and has gone from them being lovely, fun and loving to them becoming their fathers first work doers, they became so abusive and almost domestic abusers, twisting what I would say and reframing the past which really hurt me because I was such a young mum and did everything within my power to make sure they had everything. I wrote to them in (month removed by moderator) to outline why their behaviour wasn’t ok and how until they acknowledged their physician behaviour towards me wasn’t ok threat they weren’t welcome at my home. I just feel like this has further played into their fathers hands as was hoping at some point they’d want to come home and this was my proviso. Our relationship became so strained and I went from being so incensed by their behaviour to worrying if I didn’t meet their demands they’d hate me further and I’d become what their father had created in their minds.
In my job I work with parents and children in many capacities including those who are alienating their children and it’s so hard. I’m currently sending them money each week that they never acknowledge and am planning on stating to send care packages to them, I’m at odds over the efforts I should be making as am rejected at every step except the money which is paid directly into their banks.
How do you all manage this?
