Thank you all for your messages.
I think I’ve been in a bit of denia in defining it as abuse, so your comments and feedback have really helped me to feel more confident and secure.
I sat down and spoke to my husband about how his actions were making me feel, and I guess what I was hoping for was some recognition that what he was doing was wrong and at the very least an apology.
But his response that it was my actions that were causing his behaviour confirmed to me that he just doesn’t see it at wrong, and has justified it to himself – very clearly the thought process of an abuser.
I’m definitely going to take up the advice to get help to figure out what to do next…
Thank you all again!
