Sunshineandrain

[Sunshineandrain]

Tell your friends not to give him any information. You need to cut off the supply. He will soon disappear when he realises he is not getting through anymore. I would also suggest to your friends that they dont mention him again as you are going through a difficult healing process and dont neee any setbacks. If this is too awkward, quickly change the subject each time he is mentioned, they will soon get the message!

[Sunshineandrain]

What a great topic Icandothis! I have been looking for something like this as its scary but reassuring how many of us go through the red flags and then blame ourselves.
For me, it was:
He had no friends, absolutely no social life.
A very short previous marriage.
Over the top love bombing.
Needed constant reassurance.
Quick temper.
Would suddenly disappear for days.

[Sunshineandrain]

I know exactly how you feel and the only solution I can offer is to remove yourself from the room if and when possible to just fake some time out alone. I live with sister and her husband and sometimes they argue but its more ‘banter’ type or teasing. This raises alarms for me and makes me panic but I know deep down everything is fine, its just the way their relationship works and its normal. I just leave the room or go out for a while if I think either 1 is in a bad mood etc. You will soon get used to it and hopefully wben you move into a new relationship yourself you will see that it is healthy anand completely fine to disagree on some things and that it wont end or go the way you are used to. Hope this helps

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