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@dustypink Thank you so much for sharing your experience. The more I am reading on this forum, I realise that his behaviour is not so unique and I have more options than I thought.

I am so pleased to hear you escaped and I’m trying to find the same strength you found to get away. xx

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@ lover of no contact. Thank you so much for your messages. I’ve just watched Gavin de Beckers The Gift of Fear on You Tube. His analogy of no other animal would get it a lift with someone they are scared of pretty much sums up my life right now.

I’m so sorry to hear of your situation with your home. After everything you must have been through you need somewhere to feel safe and shut the world out. Have you told the mortgage company what’s going on as they have a legal obligation under the new FSA rules to support you? You should also have a mortgage holiday which may give you a few months breathing space?

@maddog. Thank you! I have a storage unit where I have some cash, a phone and a packed suitcase in case I need to go in an emergency. I don’t get much time to myself but when I do I am gradually ‘moving out’. Your advice to record what’s going on here is invaluable so thanks again

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Thank you all so much for your replies and support.

Twisted Sister. Thank you for your support and advice. I did get a spare phone last year but he constantly searches the house, found it and used it to accuse me of having an affair!

Maddog, thank you so much for your advice. I have not documented his abuse so far but will now. Wish I had your strength right now.

He’s in the most unsettling phase of the cycle right now which is friendly and attentive.. or calm before the storm!

Lover of no contact. Thank you so much for your post. Yes, he would prefer to end up in prison rather than let me leave here and be happy. We own our home together. I pay for everything. He expects to take everything from me if I leave and will carry on after I’ve left.

Iwmb thank you. Reading other peoples posts and experiences here has made me realise this is not only happening to me as is not ok.

Thanks again for your replies

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I’ve spoken to a Solicitor and the Police, who were advised of the abuse here (detail removed by moderator) years ago. My partner has said he’s going to burn down our home, destroy the rest of my life forever and would rather go to prison than let me leave here with any part of my life.

Even though the 101 calls are free they show up on my call history. The Samaritans recommended a call box and I’ve located my closest one.

He’s destroyed all my relationships with frieds so I’m doing this alone.

Thank you Maddog for your advice and suggestions

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Thank you Maddog and EbonyRaven for your messages and advice. Three.

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I’ve set up a new email account which he does not have access to, but have to be careful as he previosly installed keyloggger software onto my laptop.

Maddog, he has progressively isolated me from all my friends. He reported my last remaining friend with a fake risk complaint to child services when he found out I was still in touch with her.

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