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[tonka]

I am new to the forum so I don’t know should I open a new topic or should I ask my question here. I want to know if what my partner did to me constitutes physical abuse. I am pretty sure it does, but it is so weird I had to check. So, I moved in with my partner (detail removed by moderator). We’ve been together for (detail removed by moderator) and we are both divorced with children, but I didn’t want to move in with him before because we quarreled a lot. Losing my home I didn’t have another option at the time so I moved in against my better judgment. I guess you can imagine I was pretty traumatized losing my home (detail removed by moderator) and my only property, and I was grateful he provided the roof over my head not just for me but for my younger daughter as well. He was really happy that we are all together, that he again has a family, a full house, but it happened so that my other daughter who lives (detail removed by moderator)really needed me to be with her during the(detail removed by moderator). He was very disappointed that I won’t be there for (detail removed by moderator) . Since I was leaving I did all the (detail removed by moderator) shopping for everyone before leaving (his presents and mine) and made the food for him and his children (my (detail removed by moderator) daughter is grown up, and she lived on her own in the (detail removed by moderator) to have while I was gone while working full time, and the day of the (detail removed by moderator) He used this as a reason to pick a fight, but soon left returning late at night very, very drunk, so drunk that he was unable to walk, he was tripping over furniture making a terrible noise. I had to get up and help him to bed (detail removed by moderator) he was giving me the silent treatment, and during the time I was away he was sending me messages accusing me of being this or that (I returned in the same way, because I was angry and because every time I am away with my (detail removed by moderator) daughter he makes sure to spoil it). The final messages before my return were (detail removed by moderator)  that is find my own place, and he promised that he will make my remaining days in his house intolerable so to make sure that I move out asap. Now comes his weird revenge. What he did upon my arrival (and I was (detail removed by moderator) as I always am, and he knows it) he had the (detail removed by moderator). I couldn’t catch a second sleep,(detail removed by moderator) I wasn’t able to sleep anyway. He woke up at (detail removed by moderator) and there was music again until he went to work so I had to work (detail removed by moderator) completely exhausted. When he returned home(detail removed by moderator) and this torture of constant loud music continued for (detail removed by moderator). What he did he effectively deprived me of sleep for (detail removed by moderator), and then got bored or was satisfied with his revenge and stoped. The thing is, my daughter (detail removed by moderator). I did find an apartment and moved out (detail removed by moderator), and of course, he now claims he broke down with all the stress of epidemics, me being unhappy because of my loss even if he was doing his best to make me happy etc, but what he did was organized and planned payback for leaving him (detail removed by moderator). And what I want to hear from you is was what he did physical abuse and is he, therefore an abuser. Because he refuses to accept that he is an abuser, but persist in claiming that he just had a breakdown of a sort and won’t leave me alone claiming that he loves me and the usual. I just want to know for sure that what he did was physical abuse, and I hope that you can tell me so that I can know for sure.

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