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I don’t like most days moonstone like you but I am hoping it is better when I get out of the situation. So what Kip has said gives me hope, I hope you feel like that too.

All you can do is take one step at a time I think. I’ve been seeing a counsellor and she helps so much. It’s all about planning she says so we make plans and I achieve them. Not massive plans just small steps. I feel she has made me recognise there are people I can rely on and she has made me build stronger ties with them as they care about me. Most days are good now. It’s just the days he abuses me that I feel down.

You know what moonstone we can do this. You will get a job or retrain like I did. It took me (detail removed by Moderator) years but I achieved my goal last year.

What work would you like to do as a job?

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Thank you lightness

I want a normal future. I want peace. I have a little dog and I imagine living in my own home alone and being happy with him. I thank you for saying I am resourceful but sometimes it makes me feel worse as though I have no excuse to not leave when I have everything in place. I’m worried I won’t be able to cope alone. My sister said I can live with her but it’s not fair. My decent job will get me by financially but only just. He has done so many things to hurt me over the years I know he has but I still stay. Everyone thinks he is great, friendly and outgoing and he is to everyone else. He has been married before but she threw him out when she found out he had been seeing other women. I only recently found this out. I keep berating myself as I only find negatives in him

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Thank you again everyone. I know really where I stand legally as I saw a solicitor a few years ago. It makes me feel ill leaving but also ill staying. I try to keep myself positive. It’s difficult to talk to anyone about it as they have heard the same thing over and over. Not that they complain. Drs might be a good idea although I don’t want to take something just to avoid my feelings and not deal with things like you say.

I have been seeing a counsellor for a while now and this has made a real difference and is probably the reason I can cope at work. I could go and stay with my sister as she is very supportive but I can’t seem to make the move. He refuses to talk to my sister just because she told him off for lying about my whereabouts which sent her into a panic.

You’re right about the house. He has threatened to sell it for the past (detail removed by Moderator) years. I feel he does use it to get at me.

Thank you again xx

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Thank you for your kind words everyone. I try to understand my logic for staying in the same house as him. I’m scared of not been able to cope on my own but then i think I’m not coping with him there. I worry I won’t have any money even though I have a decent job. He says he’s putting the house up for sale [detail removed by moderator].my house used to be important to me but now I just want peace.

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Thank you L x

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He never says he won’t do it again as he always says it is me who makes him leave or want to leave or stop paying for things or not speak

Sorry for going on and on I’m just particularly down tonight

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Thank you duvet.

I don’t know what a helpline will do really as I know it is down to me. I feel ashamed of my life. I never know where I am from one week to the next. We arrange a holiday but then he either sulks and we don’t go or we say we will go out with friends but we can’t go as he’s left. So I try to avoid things so I don’t have to explain what’s going on.

Surely if I go to my doctor he will say leave and then what more palpitations. I just don’t know what to do anymore. I feel ashamed that I’m not leaving when I can pay for myself now.

I wish I knew what to do

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