Seaglass, thank you for responding. Your description sounds so much like my situation, so it gives me hope that I may get him to go. I hadn’t thought about registering the situation with the school or police so that is really helpful.
I hope your custody works out. That is by far the most stressful thing – I’m so worried about doing something that could jeopardize keeping my child with me (I’ve always been the primary parent, so it would be super disruptive to do 50-50, let alone the fact that the emotional manipulation has started to be aimed at our child as well, which is what prompted my decision finally.