womaninneed

[womaninneed]

Hi Ladies

Thank you for all the prayers and kind words.xx You ladies are so special and kind

I am ok for now, I still have headaches and he attacked me again this weekend, but I am just happy that something is finally being done and that I should be out soon

The people I reached out to is helping me to get (detail removed by Moderator). Once I have it, I am leaving, I just need to make sure I will be safe once I am gone.

Eeyorenomore, thank you for the suggestions. Unfortunately, not even that will work as a while back, I actually had to go to the doctor because of lady problems and it was such a huge fight and it ended very badly. For now, I am coping with the headaches, once I am out I will do a proper check up to make sure its not too serious.

[womaninneed]

Morning Ladies

Thank you all for the encouragement and support. Such strong words.

Unfortunately, where I live we do not have state medical aid, and I do not have any form of medical aid and he wont give me money to go to the GP. So that is not an option.

I have reached out to someone and hoping to hear from them soon.

I wouldnt have been able to do it without all the support

xox

[womaninneed]

Hi Ladies

Thank you for all the lovely posts and support, it means so much to me knowing someone cares.

I am fine for now. We got in another fight and he beat me up again. I am okay, just in a lot of pain.

This time I told him I am leaving him and that I am serious about it. He said it is okay, we should get everything sorted as he agrees with me, but I think he is not taking it seriously, probably think I am joking as after that, he came to me and said he was sorry and that he will change, that he is trying hard. For the sake of my safety, I am playing along, but I really do want to leave.

Just doing some research on what the best way would be. Hope to be out soon.

Thank you for everyone’s love and support

xox

[womaninneed]

Hi Little Bear

I am so sorry that you have to go through all of this.

I can relate to your post in so many ways. I dont want to tell you not to take him back, that is all up to you, but if I knew what I know now when I met my partner all those years ago, I wouldve ran for the hills.

When I met my partner, he didnt start off abusive, they never do. He also did what your partner did. I wasnt allowed going out with friends or drinking or even just going to a shop with my mom (I was so young when we met). He would threaten to leave me if I did anything he didnt agree with. I was so young and still in school and wasnt even allowed washing my hair, I didnt see the red flags. I was so inlove with him that I thought it was normal and obeyed his every command just so that he wouldnt leave me. I was vulnerable…

You say your partner has been physical, but that it was accidents? That is how we started out, he would “accidentally” burn me, or push me off the bed or trip me, hit me, kick me…the list goes on. And if I confronted him about it, he would tell me it was an accident or he was only playing and if I told him but he really hurt me, he would tell me to grow up. I would never forget the first time he actually hit me and admitted to hurting me. I play it over and over in my head and wonder why I didnt stand up and leave, but he apologized and said he will never do it again and so I stayed. The physical part just got worse, after the first hit, if you didnt do anything about it, they know they can get away with it and then do whatever they want with you. When I finally had enough and left him, he would show up at my school and embarrass me if I didnt want to get in his car, or he would phone my mom and arrange to pick me up for a date and if I refused, he would threaten me. He never left me alone. The one day he even tried breaking my arm, he only let go once I told him I wont leave him.

Looking back at my life, I wish that first time I wouldve seen him for who he is. We have been together for years now and the abuse is so bad that I even fear for the life of my family. I cant leave him, mainly because he is all I know and I fear the unknown, I fear him and what he is capable off and I have no where to go.

I want to urge you to think about your relationship and try and get out while you can, before it gets worse and you are stuck. There are so many red flags in your post and I know you care for him and he threatens with suicide, but it is only empty threats to pull you back. Please be so careful with what you do next and try and get away while you can

Hope you dont mind me telling you my story, hope it will help you to see him for who he really is.

Stay safe and I hope for the best for you

xox

[womaninneed]

Hi abcxyz

Just want to show some support. I hope you find the strength you need xox

I agree with Racoon, please be very careful in couples therapy, these sick men have a way of twisting stuff to go their own way.

[womaninneed]

Hi Ladies

Thank you for all your support, I do appreciate it.

AppleNinja I am so happy that you are so strong and are taking steps to get out. I hope that you do get out and holding thumbs that everything will go well.

I have taken a few steps back, I think it is because when he is not abusive, he is such a wonderful man and things are so good. I know it only lasts a while, but it makes me doubt myself

Thank you for all your love and support

xox

[womaninneed]

Hi AppleNinja

Thank you for your support

I do think he is insane, dont think how he acts is normal. I am trying to get out, but find it very difficult. I dont have a child, but so much is holding me back

I hope you get out and that you and your child will be safe

We all deserve to be happy

[womaninneed]

Hi HA

Thank you so much. I am trying to take one step at a time, will keep trying to leave

Thank you for your support and for showing concern

xox

[womaninneed]

Hi Lisa

Thank you for the kind words and advise.

I will try and phone the helpline for help

xox

[womaninneed]

Hi Confused

Thank you

I also think he did it to degrade me, I can say he succeeded. With regards to it turning people on. I can relate to that (hope it didnt come out wrong, it doesnt turn me on). My partner and I have constant fights because I wont allow him to pee inside me while having intercourse. It is disgusting and I will not allow it and he cant understand it.

He even fights with me because I wont let him pee in my mouth? The one day we had a fight and he made me sit there with his thing in my mouth because I will swallow his pee and if I tried moving, he would hit me. He started to pee a little and I started gagging, he then started laughing and thought it was a big joke. Think it is a huge turn on for him. The awful pig…

Thank you for showing support and concern, I will keep trying

xox

[womaninneed]

Hi ABCXYZ

Thank you for showing your support, it does help knowing someone understands and cares

xox

[womaninneed]

Hi HA

Thank you so much for the kind words.

I dont think my partner will allow me to go for counselling and I dont want to tell him about my memories as he will only make things worse, he already tells me I have sex with my father during an argument as he knows it hurts me when he says stuff like that (because he knows what my dad did to my sister).

I hope I do get out and live a happy life, thank you xox

[womaninneed]

Hi Peaceful Pig

Thank you so much for the kind words. I am so sorry that you had to go through the abuse, I am so glad you got out and I hope that you find the peace you are looking for xox

I will read the book you suggested, just wish that the memories never came back..

[womaninneed]

Hi Serenity

Thank you for the support. I have not been for counselling yet, dont think my partner will let me go

xox

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