Hi
Im new here to so forgive me but I can completely resonate with your story, its taken me years to believe that its not me its him, hes so shy and reserved although thankfully he has had outbursts in front of staff and customers but generally i didnt know if i was coming or going, back handed compliments, gaslightng you name it, it leaves you dazed and confused to the point you think you are going mad. But I got out despite having to forclose on a business, get my adult children on board, let down customers who had supported us through the lockdown, (detail removed by moderator) but i did it, He took no responsibility for anything so i had control of the finances but i have subsequently also had to deal with the financial fall out of the business as well of course, he plays the victim but I don’t care, as much as i am angry with him im doing it because i know i can go to bed at night safe and sound. I have had to get guarantors to support me renting and my family are not wealthy so this was hard, i had to secretly find accommodation whilst running the business along side him with no time to myself, and carry on smiling to the customers everyday. It was horrendously hard but it was meant to be because every step fell into place, i know i have a long road ahead now and I wont say that’s easy but this is actually so much easier than living in fear. So what i want to say is….if i can leave, i seriously believe anyone can, but if you had asked me that this time last year id have laughed for a day! Good luck
