Bluetoffee

[Bluetoffee]

Oh yes totally likes to have a go in the car. Last time I had my hair pulled/ragged around plus shoving his fingers into my cheeks whilst driving. I am taking a bag and going to my mums as I am very scared of him today. Called me a lazy C before he went to the gym and that I do no housework (not true). So I know when he comes back I’m in trouble. I’ve realised he has no cannabis to smoke so that’s why he’ll be in this mood. He pretends its about money Bd the house, but it always boils down to him having nothing to smoke really. I dont drive to have to wait for a lift so I’m worried about him coming back and me still being here x

[Bluetoffee]

Reading your post sounds so similar to me. Especially when you said he has none left so you know you’re in for it. I am the same, and the doesn’t beat me or anything like that either. But the flicking in your eye, I have had glass in my eye and face after he kicked a glass at me, thrown things at me etc. The fact is they’re damaged people and we have to leave. I have to leave before it does escalate into having my head punched off. Hes an (removed by moderator) so you can imagine my terror. Always on eggshells. He also uses money and our house as leverage. I dont know you but we both have to bail man, they are toxic

[Bluetoffee]

Thank you all for these helpful replies. I am trying to build the strength to leave. Today he dropped me off somewhere in the car, his idea, then suddenly decided he was furious about this. Shouting at me driving like a lunatic and eventually chucked me out of the car in the rain. He is just such an a*se! I was so frightened in the car as previously attacked me whilst driving in the past. Luckily not this time but my nerves cannot cope anymore. Like I say he was in a perfectly good mood until we got into the car then just suddenly changes. His behaviour is so unstable and unpredictable.

[Bluetoffee]

Yes I can relate to this. I was injured in the face after being repeatedly hit. The next day he was crying like a baby saying how bad he felt. Little did I know he was still going out seeing another woman behind my back. Yeah right, you felt so bad! Whilst I sit and home black and blue not being able to see any of my friends over Christmas for trying to protect his honour. Hes out partying with someone else. I have just discovered this fact, that he continued to cheat. It might be the thing I needed to finally leave. I put up with a lot of his abuse in the past cos I thought well, at least hes loyal. Well, he isnt. So why am I wasting my time. They’re really just disgusting aren’t they? I had never heard of that trauma bonding but after seeing this makes perfect sense. Even my friend who I have confided in said something similar. He makes you feel your worst so he can swoop in and make you feel better, and so the cycle continues. How about we just ditch these people and find some genuine nice normal ones. Let’s be honest they are losers. No good men hit women. I hope I find the power to do it and same for you! X x

[Bluetoffee]

Thank you both for the replies. Yes I do bbelieve it is getting worse. I was injured in the face not too long ago. He has apologised but continues to talk to me very badly and has aggressive outbursts. I suffer with anxiety problems and I guess I am afraid to be alone. He has also recently made comments regarding our sex life and how it is not enough for him. He says these things, then we make up, then he takes it all back a day later and continues to make me feel sad and confused. I just don’t want to lose him

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