Cosmo

[Cosmo]

Hello,

I feel I should reply to this thread even though its been dormant for so long. I just want to say thank you, to everyone in this thread and the others I have posted around that time.

I finally escaped the control just before (detail removed by moderator), I gave up my flat as I was in quite a lot of debt due to supporting two people with only one quite low income. I met someone at work who helped me through the process as they were going through something similar. They even sat outside in their car while i broke it off with my ex, just in case I needed help, they are now very much a big part of my life and I consider them one of my best friends. Since then, I have managed to develop friendships and open up to my family about the mental and emotional abuse my now ex put me through and are supporting me the best they can. I have also reached out to Mind to help with my mental health and on the waiting list for therapy. I owe it all to you x

This year has been a very tough one, for reasons I do not need to explain, but thanks to you amazing people on this forum I am much safer. I hope you are all keeping safe and to those who commented saying they were still going through their own situations I just want you to know you can get through it, and I hope you are keeping safe.

Much love to you all x

[Cosmo]

Hello,
I’m so overwhelmed with how nice everyone has been and so supportive! I’ve told my friends what he’s like previously and they’ve all begged me to get out and I took for granted their advice and never took it even when my partner and I weren’t living together.
I have an issue upsetting people, just in general so a part of me wished he’d break it off with me. I had a strong moment (detail removed by moderator) ago when he threatened to send his friends after me if (detail removed by moderator) it drove me to break up with him as I couldn’t have someone like him around my friends; it’s one thing us arguing and him saying stuff it’s another threatening my friends. Stupidly I got back with him, at the time I felt like it was the right thing to do after he came begging for me to take him back.

Now, I don’t know how to get him out, he’s moved a long way to live with me I can’t just kick him out (he reminds me often that’s what his ex did to him, made me wonder if she went through the same thing), he’d have no where to go, I’d have to wait for him to leave to visit his parents but then I have the issue of not telling him face to face which, even after what he’s put me through, no one deserves to be broken up with over the phone etc. And then I have the issue of how do I bring it up?! Do I wait for our next argument? Start one? Would it be easier that way or should I just come out with it? Flowerchild, I have previously told him I could not support him or the house on my own, I originally worried I can’t afford the house without him but have come to realise he’s contributed nothing to it, and no unfortunately all he does is sit and play Xbox games while I’m at work, I do all the cleaning.

No one should have to be in a relationship they don’t want to be in, I’m still young, I am independant but I am flawed in the way I have no idea how to break it off with someone so manipulative as he. I fear I will fall into the same trap I do everytime.

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