I can relate to so much on here. I haven’t posted for ages. Have been thinking we can work things out but no matter how much blame I take for issueswe have had, its never enough for him. He always seems to want to be totally blame free. Even if he could just accept a small amount of responsibility and say ” I was wrong to do hat/ say that, I’m sorry” but he always has to justify everything he did by blaming me- I only called you a bad name because I was so frustrated that you weren’t cleaning up or you were being so defensive that I just got frustrated. Etc. Or he blames the kids if they are upset about the way he spoke to them, he says that they should look at their own behaviour in the situation or that they are just too sensitive and not normal. I do think that me and kids are all more sensitive than average but still don’t think that excuses everything.
