Such a difficult situation to be in and i understand how hard it is to take back that control. Its not an over night process this takes time. Its normal to feel the way you feel with the way he is treating you and manipulating you. Its easy for people on the outside to try and tell you to cut contact walk away its not that easy i know. My only advice is follow your gut instincts and do what is best for you, because your more important and you stay strong and you know this behaviour is manipulation, control, and emotional and mental abuse. Sweetie you deserve so much better. Hang in there x