When I left my abusive ex, I was alone. It was awful, and scary, and I had no idea why I’d ever thought it a good idea to leave, or, how I’d ever cope on my own, or how I’d ever trust anyone again… doomed to a life of solitude…
Except, it wasn’t awful, and it wasn’t scary. I did it. I am doing it. I feel like I could maybe get into a relationship now, because if ever I got the slightest hint of anything going sideways, I know I could walk away completely self-sufficient.
Honestly, I guess I became a big believer in “fake it till you make it”. I’d paste on a smile and pretend I had my sh*t together, until it turned out I actually did. I do think it’s important though to allow yourself some “down time” every now and then. Even if that’s just some time to come here and work through the real feelings by typing them out to the lovely women on here.
Being alone, and being lonely are two very different things. Embrace the former and manage the latter. There are always people here to talk to.
I don’t know if any of that is really helpful… Keep your head up. You got this.
