Elishiva

[Elishiva]

Hi Discombobulated2022,

So far, so bad is all I can say in response to your question. When I first met my future husband, he seemed easy going, polite, considerate and caring. It was like seeing Dr. Jeckle and Mr. Hyde in person living with my husband, and while I don’t live with him anymore, we still visit because I haven’t figured out where to go from here yet. But he has not changed for the better despite the distance. He holds grudges like nobody’s business, and every time I visit, he mocks me and belittles me-even online. He does everything he can to knock out my self confidence. Thankfully, I have an Advocate Who helps me when I pray to Him. Make plans on what to do without him in your life, sweetie. Also, work on your confidence by doing things that have merit in your opinion. By doing them, it will increase your self confidence. Be sure not to tell anyone who has belittled you in the past what you do in that regard, so they can’t ‘steal the oil’, so to speak. Blessings.

[Elishiva]

Hi bluebluepinkblue,

It can be difficult determining the ‘fairness’ of situations such as what you described; but was his treatment fair to you? He needs discipline, and you need confidence-back if you had it before the two of you met, and in general if you didn’t. It is challenging to trust in our judgment when it feels like it’s our fault that we got into a bad situation, but if your gut is telling you to do something, do it. Just remember that it was probably your heart that got you into that situation to begin with-not your gut. Don’t guilt yourself into submission to him. No one deserves blatant abuse. Peace and blessings.

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