Hi
Thanks for your support/reply. I hear what you say in your last paragraph – I was never blind to the fact that there are two sides to every story. However he divorced her and there were other signs and evidence of her behaviour not being good. Anyway things have improved from within myself as I am feeling much less distressed about everything and feeling stronger to detach myself emotionally.
Things kicked off again at New Year – I was very very calm though. Next day it’s like nothing’s happened. I asked if he remembered what had been said and he came across like he felt justified about his behaviour. I told him I am done. He has nothing to say and is as sweet as pie when he is sober. Then when he is very very drunk he will start to talk – but he communicates like an episode of the Jeremy Kyle show!
Thanks again so much for being there – the support has really helped me just stay calm and not react emotionally to what’s going on.