Flowergirl4

[Flowergirl4]

Hi PorcelainGrrrl,

If you’ve been experiencing emotional abuse, your self esteem and confidence has probably taken a knock. I know in my experience no matter how much he hurt me or how angry I was with him, I still couldn’t bring myself to end things. Even after he said he wished I’d have a miscarriage and was messaging other women behind my back.
I’ve finally reached the end of my tether this week and I’ve ended the relationship and told him to leave.
Has he made any attempt to get in contact with you for the last week? I hope you can find the strength to end the relationship if that’s what you want to do, it is difficult but you need to think about how much happier you will be without the abuse.
Hope you’re okay xx

[Flowergirl4]

Hi all,

I am currently dealing with the same! Told partner I’d had enough after some eye opening behaviour whilst I’m grieving a family member. This isn’t the first time I’ve tried to end things but I feel completely different this time. Like I am committed to sticking to my guns this time and not letting him guilt me like he has done in the past. The difficult thing is like yourselves he’s still in the house. I feel like I’m walking on eggshells in my own home. He’s trying so so hard to put on this fake, mr nice guy act but the occasional flash of his usual sarcastic nasty self shows through. How do you all manage with having to put up with being in the same living space? I am trying to keep separate as much as possible but his favourite thing to do when we’ve had an argument is to just follow me around the house and not leave me alone!

[Flowergirl4]

Thankyou for your reply! He’s shown snippets of this behaviour before but not to this level. But the way he kept going on about me being horrible was making me doubt myself!
It has made me angry enough to tell him today that I am done, so now just the difficult part of sticking to my guns until he leaves! Xx

[Flowergirl4]

I’m so sorry you’ve experienced that as well! It’s hard enough going through the loss without having the person who is meant to be there making things worse.
I’ve had nearly a decade of dealing with emotional abuse from him and this was literally the tipping point for me so some good has come from it! I told him I was done last weekend and he had still been staying in my house this week, changing from being over the top nice, to be awkward, to then going back to name calling and being nasty yesterday as I knocked him back. He finally left the house yesterday to stay in a hotel and honestly the relief was immense! I hope you’re safe and that maybe things have got better for you xx

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