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    • #11539
      Fruitcake
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      Thanks for taking the trouble to reply. I really don’t won’t to go on HRT or antidepressant again. Although I did feel better I never felt right as if the real me was still missing. I think I’m probably in denial about how my hormones have affected my behaviour and feelings towards dear hubby. He has a doctor friend so is well aware of what this time of life can do when the hormones change. Anger and rage are the opposite of love and affection but it all seems so real. It’s as if I’m blaming him for the way I feel and when he reacts to the way I treat him it makes me 10 times worse. Have any of you tried anything herbal to calm the anxiety I’m sure if I got that under control things would improve and I wouldn’t be wondering is it him or is it me.

    • #11218
      Fruitcake
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      Did anyone listen to the Jeremy vine show today ? Suzanne Summers was talking about the problems she had going through the menopause. She described feeling in a rage for years, being annoyed and irritated at everything. OMG that’s me ! Another women came on to say how she had always been so close to her son but now argued with him all the time, it was only when her best friend told her how she was behaving that she realised it was her and her changing hormones. Now I’m really confused is it him or is it me, my anxiety and rage. He gets grumpy because I refuse him intimacy and I get angry because he’s grumpy and annoyed it’s a vicious circle. I just want to feel normal again then maybe dear hubby won’t seem so bad and I won’t feel like a victim all the time. How do I get things back on track especially the intimacy and affection that we had.

    • #11068
      Fruitcake
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      Thanks for all the useful comments so far. i suppose hormones could be playing a big part in all this. I have certainly lost my spark and keep wishing I could feel like my old self. I have a constant feeling of discontent I used to be so house proud and careing now I don’t care and if I’m honest hhave become quite selfish and cold towards others, especially dear hubby. Thanks again for your comments.

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