Hi Eggshells- thanks for the kind words – yes I have tried Citizens Advice… the issue is everything being overseas. Cannot seem to find out if any uk legal rulings are enforceable abroad. That’s the key – he’s already told me he can drag this out for years, me with nothing, him with everything. It seems so unjust after everything me and our children have put up with. They are grown up now… and neither wants anything to do with him, so he’s lost his family. I think women are supported to leave, but once you are in a place of safety, there isn’t much help or support. These forums help though!