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Thank you Serenity, I really appreciate your response. I did get diagnosed with BPD recently, but looking back i’m sure I was pushed towards this diagnosis by my ex-partners ‘obsession’ with my behaviour. He seemed convinced that there was something wrong with me and kept pushing me towards websites, books relating to BPD (he introduced me to the term). I admit I became a bit obsessed with this too and kept finding and creating similarities between myself and the traits. I think he really wanted me to have a ‘label’..and possibly I did too in order to justify my ‘reactions’ to things that he did. I do have a bit of a broken past and issue with abandonment which he knew about quite early on and I do believe he used this against me, because to be fair i’ve been really resilient all these years all the way up to meeting him. Once I had the label, it then became ‘my responsibility’ to change and ‘my issue’ became the excuse for everything. I wasnt me anymore. Close friends said i had become a shell of myself and yet it was him that said he was ‘stepping on Eggshells’ around me. If we did have a week of calm, something would trigger an argument and it would be my fault, he would get angry at me for crying but then would say ‘i’m sorry, to be fair to you, you have been trying really hard with your BPD and I was wrong to snap etc’. Basically if i stuck up for myself when he called me names or ignored me then i was ‘crazy BPD girl’. I’m hoping I can get re-assessed for PTSD.

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Cuppa! this is the same situation! My ex would always say ‘I’ve never argued with anyone’..’everyone says i am a good guy’, ‘i get on with everyone’ etc.. Why do they say this? What frustrated me was yes, nobody else had experienced being his girlfriend! He’d never been challenged by anyone! To be fair on our first date, he made a massive fuss to a waiter about (removed by moderator)..I guess I should have been a bit wary then..small signs

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Thank you Kip, you make a really great point. I just hope that his friends will one day realise that he was abusive towards me rather than his story of how I was crazy etc..X

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Thank you Dragonfly, I’m sorry you had the experience of seeing him today. How are you feeling? I’m glad you can see his behaviour for what it is. X

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Thank you, I replied below as wasn’t sure how the replies work. I’ve since received a few more replies and i’m ever so grateful. Support is a huge comfort and i’m very thankful x

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Thank you for your incredible words of support and for sharing your experience. It’s a comfort to hear more from a BPD perspective and it’s the first time i’ve heard such positivity. I put a bit more info below as wasn’t sure how to reply on here till now.

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Thank you, I replied below as wasn’t sure how the replies work. I’ve since received a few more replies and i’m ever so grateful. Support is a huge comfort..so thank you

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