Thanks for taking the time to reply Bananaboat. I think this way of life has become so normal for me a that I really struggle to consistently call it abusive. I have woken up to the impact it has had on my older children, and i don’t want to make the same mistakes for my youngest.
He certainly seems to be definitely moving out soon, so I see that as a positive for all of us.
I agree that if not already, there will be a new women on the scene. I am genuinely ok with that now. I almost hope that another women will become his focus, and I can simply step away and take care of the kids. I don’t believe it will be that easy. He has started to accuse me of alienating him from the kids and that he had a specialist loyal to deal with that. How much is true I don’t know. I try to remain focused on me and the kids best interests. Is he a risk to my youngest? Psychologically yes, but I’m not sure that will make a difference in going to mediation and seeking the best for the youngest. Do I just continue to agree his 50/50 and see how it pans out? That doesn’t feel right. I need to find a good solicitor. He has declined me using the only firm I knew, (detail removed by Moderator). If there are any suggestions for who I should speak to or where to find help. I’d be very grateful.
