Thank you so much for the replies. I don’t know what I expected I guess I thought people would judge me for being a terrible mother and putting up with this.
Just as an update, I left, with the kids and went to a mutual friends. He found out and went ballistic with me, saying (detail removed by moderator). Now I’m questioning my sanity because he says all he did was “(detail removed by moderator)”
So now I’m thinking maybe I over reacted. But is it ok? Is it abuse? She’s not hurt but she def got a fright and was very distressed, he was yelling at her “(detail removed by moderator)!!” (Similar blaming shaming stuff he’d say to me in a rage but this time my daughter got it) The words were very shaming and even if he ONLY (detail removed by moderator) there was no need to. She wasn’t being violent.
But the problem is I feel like I’m losing it, he’s convinced me I was triggered and over reacted so I’ve ended up apologising. He is furious I went to our friends to get away; and he’s said that she agrees with him. “She knows I’d NEVER hurt my kids how dare you insinuate I would?”
He thinks I’m unstable and I’m questioning my sanity honestly I am. I know what I heard and I know what my daughter said this morning to me.
I’m also scared that if I DO tell my doctor for instance, she will be duty bound to report it? Then what? I’m terrified if I did because honestly he would just make out I’m mental, if he can convince our friend of this, then he can definitely convince a stranger. I will then be in a worse position cos I’d lose access to my kids.
