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Hi Lisa
Thank you for the suggestion. Yes if anyone can message me privately I would really appreciate it.

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So, Cafcass went to my child’s nursery. She was supposed to tell me when she had arranged the appointment but it somehow “slipped her mind”. She has led him with her questioning and lied to me during phone calls and in her emails.
I tried emailing her with my concerns and she has told me she does not think it is an effective use of her time to go through each point one by one. She has not listened to a word I have said and what she is saying she believes about me, is not a person I recognise. Yet she has believed his lies with no evidence. I have evidence and she is not interested. I am at a loss that people who are supposed to help you, actually abuse you like my ex partner did.

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Thank you Ocean.
Cafcass believe everything my ex is saying and fully support him. She thinks I am overreacting and will not listen to a word I say nor does she read anything properly that I have written. She is even making up lies as well.
Unfortunately I cannot get legal aid.
She has just spoken with my child and asked leading questions to get the answers she wanted.

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Thank you Living Warrior
We are already in the court process and Cafcass are involved.
From your experience did Cafcass speak to your child without you present? I was told that they would come and observe my child with me there. Now she has changed the goalposts and wants to go to the nursery. I don’t want this. My child is too young for this.

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Again thank you both. You seem to be very knowledgeable and I appreciate you taking the time to respond to me.

KIP, can I ask how you approached your local MP and how they were helpful? I would not know where to start with asking for help or what he might be able to help with.

ISOPeace, this looks really interesting. I haven’t been able to find what case/cases this relates to. Do you have any more detail? Apologies if I have missed it from what you have sent.

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Thank you both for your responses.
I have kept a log of his behaviour but no one seems to care. He is not allowed to contact me now, so that abuse has stopped but we are (detail removed by moderator). He does have indirect contact (detail removed by moderator) and even that is too much for me. He will sometimes emotionally abuse my child during the calls and I have to cut it off and he does have digs at me occasionally. (detail removed by moderator)
Apparently you have to wait until some harm comes to them before anything will be done. From his past behaviour and his hatred of me, I worry that he will harm our child intentionally to get at me or if he ever was allowed access, he would kidnap my child.
I have spoken to Women’s aid and had a case worker, but that finished recently.
I do have a solicitor, but this is stressing me out due to the cost and every time I send a one sentence email it costs me. My estimated costs are (detail removed by moderator) and because of this, it means my child is losing out on this money. (detail removed by moderator) But it seems no matter what he does, I am the one that suffers. (detail removed by moderator) And feel very alone 🙁

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