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http://everydayfeminism.com/2016/01/gaslit-poem/?utm_source=facebook this I’ve found really helpful also as someone else has recommended to me on here Melanie toni evans you can find her stuff on you tube x

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I WA just going to start a thread on this. I’m separated so and have a date with a new man coming up. It’s only natural a man will ask why I left my husband. I have no idea how to deal with this question without lying or making myself sound like a bad person for leaving or leaving myself vulnerable to another a abusive relationship. Please help ladies

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Tobehappy that is amazing advice. That is going to be my focus. Thank you xx

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It’s good to rant and get it all out. Of course it hits the pit of my stomach that rather than address his issues he would move on. But when I rationalise it of course he would because he sees it as the easy option and because he has no self awareness and is blaming me. Just trying hard to focus on myself. But to be honest seeing him with a 7 yr old pic on tinder has put me off as there must be so many other fakes on there how do we move on and learn to trust again

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Relief he appears to be moving on. Tamra read all you can on manipulative behaviour. I find it helps but still need the understanding of people in the same situation. I have no doubt he will plaster his next relationship all over Facebook as your ex has. Don’t let that fool you. They put you on a pedal stool in the beginning. If yours was anything like mine it won’t take long for the irrational jealous and manipulation to creep in. I’m sure they’ll be the perfect partners to begin with if only to further attempt to justify that we were the crazy ones to themselves and others. Their masks will slip because that’s all it is a mask. It’s not real. Xx

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Ps typo sorry I missed the m in tamra

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Tara they will never change. I was on tinder this morning and his face popped up. My gut reaction was relief. Relief that he may find some other supply. How awful is that! From early on in our relationship he was checking my messages and still holds it against me that he found a message from 3 yrs prior to me even meeting him to another man. Only last week he brought it up as justification for his insecurities. How is that even rational? And I’m the mental one. When you say it out loud it’s almost laughable. Unfortunately I’m beginning to get that nothing I say or do will make people understand who choose not to. I just hope that one day he exposes himself for the manipulative controlling bully he is and I find peace that we all do

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Thank god we have somewhere we can talk to keep us sane. I spent the last year of the relationship in councelling, at the gp begging for anti psychotic medication and entirely blaming myself. It just baffles me that I left my home, pets and belongings and the same people who witnessed his behaviour now stand by his side. People that have intervened physically and people that sat with me at the hospital. He’s telling them I won’t let him move on. I couldn’t care less! He has been the one begging me to go back or meet up and be friends. Keep strong ladies

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His family all cut me off when I left which was fine although hurt. I stupidly put my side across on social media because I literally couldn’t stand it. My brother in law and sister still maintain contact. It’s so hurtful it makes me question myself. Because I retaliated on occasion he uses that as justification. It’s so hard I never expected some of the people closest to me to be manipulated by him especially when they saw his aggression

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