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[Notsurewhy]

I really like both of those analogies.
I’m fortunate that handover is (detail removed by Moderator) a week and there is no phone/facetime contact in between, access was mutually agreed at the very beginning and he hasn’t challenged it. My mum has just started doing handovers for me and I’ve installed a family app for him to discuss any child arrangements through. Hopefully after a bit more time of no contact it will start to feel easier.
I think exercise and mindfulness would be a really good thing for me, prior to Covid I had been a regular gym goer for about (detail removed by Moderator) years.
It’s nice to hear that it just take time, I was driving myself a bit mad wondering why after all this time I still wasn’t ‘over it’.
I just want to say thank you to all of you for replying me. Strangely enough your the first people other then a solicitor that I have spoken to about being in an abusive relationship. A weight feels like it’s been lifted just realising there are other people out there that understand xx

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Thanks for replying, (detail removed by Moderator) my very supportive mum has started to do the handovers for me but this isn’t a long term solution. I just felt it was getting too much for me and I needed to go no contact for a while.
Access to my son is definitely used to try keep a foot in the door with me so to speak.
At the time when I left I didn’t seek any help other then legal help for a non mol. The abuse left me feeling like I wasn’t worthy or could justify getting any help. But I have reached out to two local charities for some support/courses to try and improve my mindframe.
It’s funny isn’t it because the logical part of my brain can see that him ‘moving on’ is another part of his game and charade, I also realise his behaviour will not change and he will go on to treat someone else the same.
But even knowing all that it doesn’t stop it from hurting and feeling like he ‘got away with it’.
I’m very lucky that I have a good job and a home but I have nothing and no one else other then my parents and my son. This also hasn’t been the best year to start a new life either really. I’ve read a few posts on here and seeing that lots of people are affected for quite some time after is reassuring that I’m not going crazy xx

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