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Thank you confused 123 It just dosnt seem to get any easier Christmas is not the same, we used to have family Christmas dinner now im lucky if i see my children and grand children. We were so close before he cam along. I really do not think there is anyway of fixing the damage. Therefore i am more concerned now i guess about dealing with the depression this brings. It is a bit stange because although i was depressed first few months after leaving it is two years later when the reality of what happened, leaving my home, my friends, my children has hit. I am older now and it may well have been easier to bounce when i was younger, i just feel i am reside to a life without family or friends i am to old to start again 🙁

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Thank you Starlight, i am trying to rebuild relationship with my children but not doing a very good job, i am really struggling, i do not talk to them about how i feel i just put a smile on and pretend everything is ok however when i get home i cry because it is not the same. I have met new friends but then feel they all want something from me in some way and it is not real friendship. I have CPTSD which leads to me being very distrustful of people, which is catch 22. I am a very considerate person in fact to considerate according to my therapist, which results in me only ever seeming to end up with needy people as friends. It would be so nice to meet people who dont just take but give something back, i.e a two way friendship, this is something that has happened all my life however i wasnt aware of it until all this happened. So i am reluctant to meet new friends but then i miss having friends 🙁 Sometime ignorance is bliss 🙂

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I’m not new either, i was called struggling on the old forum but i am called oknow on this one, i have noticed that some of the ladies who were on here nearly 2 years ago are still on here, i some ways i am glad to see them but in other im not as it means they are still suffering 🙁

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