Onwardsandupwards

[Onwardsandupwards]

This is something we deal with mentally and can be struggle at times. This thinking comes ftom him continuously making you question yourself and your needs not being met and this together with the abuse cycle.

I would recommend for you to watch YouTube videos on n**********c abuse and the abuse cycle. Also red flags in a relationship. One of the first signs of an abusive relationship is questioning yoursel. He is making you doubt yourself and blame yourself. So building yourself up will help you start thinking clearly and whats best for you.

Take a step back and try to imagine if someone you love dearly came to you with this same situation, what advice what you give them and what would you think about their partner.

The reason we forgive, overlook their abuse and find it difficult to leave is because we love and crave for how they were in the beginning of the relationship. When they stop being abusive or change something for a short time, we think that maybe they’ve finally changed this time. So we stay a little longer each time. But the abuse and control will only get worse the longer you stay.

[Onwardsandupwards]

I am so so sorry for what you are going through. This us an extremely difficult time as you want to keep yourself safe but are feeling conflicted in your head and questioning if what your doing is right, but start writing a list of things he’s done since the beginning of the relationship. This will help you to see what he’s done and you’ll start accepting that its him not you. He is the abusive one, not you.

Its important you keep contacting the police each time he does something so a case can start to build.

I kept a diary of calls, messages, emails etc with days and times for evidence. This camevin handy after (detail removed by moderator) when getting custody our son.

You will feel like giving up at times as the burden is so heavy and the you feel lonely but please keep going, you’re a very strong and courageous person and you’ve been put through hell. You’re children need you and i promise things will get better.

Its so difficult when everyone is telling you yo be strong but please don’t give up, give the domestic abuse charity a call back and tell them your current situation. He’s only telling people about things to cover his back as he doesn’t want the truth to come out about him. But you keep doing what you’re doing and i promise you’ll find the support you need and will get through it, it’s just difficult to see that when you’re going through it.

[Author]

Posts