Thank you all for your responses, they made me feel less alone in all of this.
Another thing that’s playing on my mind and affecting my mental health quite a lot too is my lack of sex drive. Is it all down to things he’s said or done or is it a more deep seated emotional response to feeling ashamed of things that have happened in the past such as casual sex?
Often i cant bear to be touched because it brings back memories of the things he’s brought up about my past relationships. Things he knows because he looked through my phone.
I’ve even considered looking into sex therapy for myself to understand it more. Has anyone else been through a similar experience?