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Thank you ISOPeace, I will get out, and soon, I have a plan……. I just need to not loose my bottle. I have told work, family and friends……. basically to give me that added push when I have my inevitable wobble, I dread to think how my dad would react if I didn’t see it through!!

[paperdoll21]

I will look at that thank you. I am going down the legal aid route, so I have to follow what they say, and so far they are telling me they will start with letters, I agree a waste of time, but right now I cannot afford to take him to court without the legal aid. they said I may have to pay, if it goes to court(when more like!) but that I would have to pay back rather than find it upfront, I don’t want more debt but I am between a rock and a hard place right now.
but otherwise, I have got my name off all other household bills, so that is one positive!!

But thanks for the advice I will have a look at their website xx

[paperdoll21]

Hi Kip,

You are absolutely right, I completely understand why my new partner is not happy. it is time I blocked my ex, and I do it purely because he has threatened suicide so many times, I have even had the police out when he has taken a knife to his wrists when I have tried to leave before. of course his injuries were superficial and I know my new partner is right when he says my ex is bluffing, but it is just the sense of guilt on my part, even though I know I shouldn’t.

I definitely wont send the phone back until I have a new one, everything is transferred and the phone will be restored to factory settings…… I learnt that lesson when I managed to wipe photos of my bruises and lost them all together, I am very careful with my data now.

I have a legal aid solicitor, they have said I will probably have to pay if it goes to court and at this point they can only write letters on my behalf, and hope he engages, I know fine well he won’t and it will be a court situation, but…….. I don’t care how much it costs, I will find away of making it work. I am just in utter disbelief I finally did it, and while I can’t say I am exactly happy, I am getting there, and I feel safe and loved and I know that very soon the real happiness will follow, I just need to break all ties with my ex

………. I should probably start by not checking up on him, like you say he is not my responsibility

[paperdoll21]

Hi Kip,

Thank you for your response. I am in touch with both my local women’s aid and a solicitor. As I have spent a great deal of time telling my ex it is over, I do not consider what I did cheating, the fact my ex would dismiss the fact that I did not want to be with him, well that right there is part of the problem, all my feelings and wants have been dismissed as stupid for years.
I understand your point about a new relationship…… in fact I would say the same thing to someone else, but after all these years I just need to give some happiness a go…… and if it doesn’t work out, my house will soon be sold and I will move on.

But thank you for your advice, everyone on here is so caring and I do appreciate it, and while my course of action may not be what people advise, I think at this point anything is worth a try.

Thank you for your reply though, it is appreciated

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