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Thank you again for all the great advice. I felt really empowered with all the comments so I spoke to my local womens aid. They were great and really made me feel reassured that I was experiencing a difficult situation, I was told I was getting a idva. But now I haven’t heard anything and I’m feeling a bit vulnerable because my ex is asking questions why I’ve stopped recent contact days. I’ve structured a long email and will send to him, it’s basically about going through a contact centre. I’ve worded everything with no emotions. I let him know I’d send an email. And now he’s sent me a email stating (detail removed by Moderator) I think he knows I want to change/reduce contact. His passive aggressive emails like that always give me anxiety, I know it will be a list of threats to try and make me crumble and give in… but I can’t live like this anymore so I will stay strong. Even if it ends in court maybe that’s for the best. There is no risk of the passport situation now because the solicitor said I would have to sign for one, which is reassuring. (Detail removed by Moderator).

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Thank you so much for all the advice! I feel a lot stronger knowing there’s things I can do. I just want him to stop with all the mind games. I know who the girl is now but I still have no idea where she lives. He is causing issues with my life financially refusing to pay for the babies nursery fees so I’m left to fund that by myself etc. I am going to contact my local womens aid and limit contact. If he wishes to see him more it will have to be through a contact centre or he will have to pay for a solicitor. I know it’s going to be another struggle but eventually it will pay off I hope.

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Thank you for replying. Are court orders easy to apply for? If he were to apply for a passport would I be informed or do I have to contact the passport office to try and stop that from happening. Last month he had the baby stay the night at a girls house he was seeing, he refused to give me the address or even town. He laughed down the phone at me. I went to bed upset not having a clue where my baby was sleeping. I thought a mother should know where her baby stays etc but the police said he can do whatever he likes. He knows all addresses where the baby stays and sleeps yet I know nothing when it’s his time with him apart from his mothers, apparently he’s never there now.

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