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I have GP call back on Monday as today is full, and appointment with solicitor next Thursday. I’ll write everything up prior to then, so at least I have a deadline and next contact is not until next weekend anyway. Thank you again diymum@1 I really appreciate you being here for me. xx

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Thank you all.
I will document everything, I’ve just avoided it as it feels so hard to do.
I regularly speak to my GP, she understands.
I’ve previously been in touch with my MP, so hopefully it will be a continuation rather than ‘new’ work.

Is it worth engaging with him again to ask for who he’s bringing again? and where he’ taking her?
They plan things for her as they are 3 hours away, so picking up his mum last minute would never fly, people need to prepare as does my daughter.

Thank you all again.
xx

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My daughter cowers because she doesn’t really know her grandmother, we left when she was (Detail removed by moderator) but now her father has 7 hours contact and probably can’t cope for that time he brings her. However it was probably her pushing for contact all the way along…

My daughter doesn’t ever know she’s going to be there so is left confused each time she turns up.

I’ve asked for him to let me know who he’s bringing and also told him she feels overwhelmed with too many people she doesn’t know.

(Detail removed by moderator) I feel he’s not playing fair but that wouldn’t be a surprise…

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Thank you all…

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What he doesn’t tell me is who he’s bringing, and where he’s taking her.

I just feel helpless when my daughter doesn’t want to go or feels uncomfortable because he’s withheld information that might help her rather than him.

My solicitor is not responding as I’m out of Legal Aid, I’m just in a process of info gathering but my gut feel is that unless her physically assaults her, which he may not outside of 4 walls and in public I have no physical evidence to help me.

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Although I was okay with doing hangovers as I have no one to help me, it’s becoming harder to see what it’s doing to my daughter, and me to that matter but it feels like neither of us have any power to make things better, despite me asking him to share basic info out of courtesy.

Thank you all again for your support.

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He is paying child maintenance and has a good job, his mother has probably supported with this too. For them it’s about looking the part and saving face.

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diymum@1, thank you. Neither of us has legal representation now, (detail removed by moderator) I will ask my solicitor to write a letter to him with request for just him to collect her, and for him to let me know where they will be in case of emergencies.
I thank you so much diymum@1 for your advice. It feels such a minefield. None of the local DV support services will take referrals until end of Jan, I just have no one to help me. xx

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