I’m still with my partner of (detail removed by moderator) years, he is (age removed by moderator, we don’t live together. He is abusive but doesn’t acknowledge that at all. He often tells me how lucky I am to have him but on the other hand is so jealous and possessive when we are out, showing real insecurity around me. He has hit me a couple of times and spat full in my face I think that was worse. The hitting was a back hand across my side and rear which he felt was acceptable. (I didn’t belt you across the room for f***s sake!” was his reply when I said about it. In bed he has to totally dominate me and has hurt me unintentionally but has raped me (detail removed by moderator) saying he didn’t hear me cry or say stop the first time and just changed our position the second, saying “Ithought you were OK.” I have told him I am not comfortable with some of the things he does but he will turn it around later saying you really enjoyed that. His problem is drink and he is going to a well being clinic for his health and I am hoping he takes on board what they say about cutting down. He has never been brought up to respect women and I would like us to go to some sort of counselling together because he does have some really good qualities but I just don’t know if he can change.
