Silverandgold

[Silverandgold]

Sorry meant ‘hi ‘ eggshells, KIP, Iwantme me back, not ‘hell’ in first line. I’m not swearing at you, I promise! I’m try to type from phone with sticky keys. Sorry!

[Silverandgold]

He’ll eggshells, KIP, iwantme back,

Thankyou all for your replies again. I felt so isolated with it till I got all your replies, like there was no way out.

Eggshells, yes he has backed me into a corner, he really really has. I only tried women aid once so should try again.its a lightbulb moment when you said ‘but you don’t have to stay’, because when your in it you feel like there’s no life beyond. But your right I don’t have to be here, he just made me believe it’s him or nothing.i do need to find a way to get money coming in for me, I will ask council about payment plan. I’m glad you now have close relationship with your dad after you went through it, you are the best mum for being there for your kids in a shot like you said. Wise words. Thankyou.

KIP, Thanks also again.no there technically isn’t a tenancy with my (or his) name I don’t believe, but not sure. House belongs to people he knows. I have never seen a tenancy agreement. If he got one I don’t know if it’s his or my name on it, I did ask once, but he wouldn’t tell me. I didn’t know councils duty to re-home, or remove him either. Thankyou. I couldn’t get crime number, police didn’t want to know when I contacted them before, so no evidence of it. I will try get women’s aid on board again. Thankyou.

Iwantme back, thankyou for your reply. It is also appreciated. I also didn’t know I could try and remove my name myself online. He’s got me in brain fog, can’t even think logically with it, just went in panic mode, like what he wanted.im glad you were able to sort yours going online like this. I laughed when you said ‘he still doesn’t know’. Thankyou.

He made me feel like I was alone and no one would help me for so long, and that I was stuck with him, have to do what he tells me, with no way out. But you all made me see there are options, there are things I can do, or try and do to resolve this.

I appreciate all your help and replies so much. Thankyou eggshells, KIP, Iwantmeback.

[Silverandgold]

Hello eggshells and KIP

Thankyou for replies. No I have no savings and income at all. My bank balance is zero. So no chance of paying by installments. The only thing is my ‘permitted allowance ‘by him for me to buy him food. It’s only a few pounds literally like for bread, milk for him.
I don’t have money hidden or any other account.
It’s literally zero in the bank. I didn’t think of bayliff and court fees on top too till you said. I did at one point say to the council come to the house and take possessions. But they said had to get warrant to do that. I own nothing so it would be his possessions like TV and cooker. But would only cover about one month’s pay. He hides what he has.
Thankyou eggshells and KIP for explaining process and suggestions.
I think you are both right I need to try and be brave and try and re report to council and police. It’s just so scary.didnt think of credit card, could try that.hes isolated me from family and friends so can’t go to them.
I don’t love him, I dont want to be here. I could only offer the council literally one to two pounds per week from his bread/milk food allowance money, but I don’t think they would accept it as it obviously won’t even dent the bill.
I’m embarrassed by this. I used to be independent, drive, have my own car etc. He took it all.
Thankyou both for replies and help.

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