My husband was the same, thankfully he’s moved out now, yes sometimes I let things get on top of me and I wouldn’t have dinner ready by the time he got back etc. He used to say passive aggressive things like ‘I’ll do the washing’ being angry that I had been at home a lot and should have done it. Truth be told, I was suffering from very severe depression, feeling very lonely in the relationship, with him taking no responsibility. Weirdly, since he left, I am on top of the housework most days. Like you said, they expect you to be perfect, whenever I asked him to put the washing in the drawers I was met with nastiness, he would begrudgingly do it.
