Starshipx

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Thank you healthyarchive, I’ll have a look. The reason I put all my hours into the weekend was no childcare. It worked cause he would do it most of the time, but you are right he knows I need him for it and I think he likes the control he has over me with it. It’s the one thing he has had over me for ages and I know the minute I sort it out he will say you know I would’ve had the kids why did you quit or why did you change your hours, your so over the top etc x

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How does no contact work with kids and having him be my childcare in my house whilst I work? His house is no where near suitable enough to have the kids in x

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He came to see the children, I left him here for 10 mins, come back he has helped himself to food out of my cupboard and is slumped on my sofa texting. I told him he is free to go if he has elsewhere to be. He barely spends 20 mins with them, to which point he says he is going and won’t be having the kids for me when I go to work at the weekend, they are both stood there. He goes on to say it’s our sons fault because he g grassed him up for eating the food. Wtf?!?!?!?!? How the hell does he feel he can behave that way infront of them still??? I don’t have to let him in here to see them but I try to be the bigger person and he always makes me feel like a complete idiot for allowing it! X

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Positiveandlookingahead- thank you, his mum is defo not on his side but I know what you mean. I’m always aware of what I’m saying to her but their relationship is strained, to the point where the police were called after an argument where he scared the living day lights out of her, but I never tell all to her. I’m definitely getting to the point where I’m starting to feel better, apart from the odd down day. He is a waste of a human, he still texts me asking for sex, even up to this morning. Then tells me tonight to find myself a boyfriend and leave him alone. I wouldn’t mind if I kept texting or calling but I never do, it’s always him who texts or calls. Why couldn’t I have had a normal break up!!!!!! X

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I know that is being finished is the right thing for me and the kids. You sound exactly how I’m feeling. I definitely have better days. Waking up in the morning seems to be the worst but it helps that every time I have to see him he reminds me of what a t**t he is plus the fact he wants to keep rubbing anything and everything to do with other women in my face. I think half of it is rubbish and lies it just the enjoyment of having the upper hand x

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Healthyarchive I thought I was going mad! I don’t get it. I thought I’d just carry on with no feelings but it didn’t happen! Doesn’t help that he now has an arrogance about him like he is gods gift. Did it take you long to get over the situation? X

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Is it normal to have bad days??? It’s the knot in my stomach that I can’t stand, this morning I woke up and just felt like sh*te! I spoke to his mum tonight, she is lovely and asked how I was getting on, speaking to her just made it clear he is still telling lies to people. Does the counselling really help??? I’m at the point I’m thinking it’s the way I need to go. He is still doing mind games and it isn’t helping the situation!

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Thanks for your replies, I don’t think me and the kids are in any danger but he is very good at lying to twist things. I have to have contact with him because he has the kids so I can work. The more I speak about him out loud the more it shocks me what I put up with. I think I’m finding it easier because in a way we’d already separated months ago, it was just that last emotional attachment. He just seems to do things to make me feel like crap. I don’t need to know every aspect of your life now, your not my problem anymore!!!!

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