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[TheOne]

Thank you love.
I’ve been to the CAB today! They gave me hope. First of all they said that I shouldn’t worry about HIS debts, he can not transfer payments on my name if I don’t want.
Tomorrow I am having a session with a solicitor, and on Wednesday I am going to a One Stop shop.
I couldn’t stop crying but the adviser was very kind and spent 1,5 hr with me. He also referred me to the GP who was very kind to me too. Unfortunately I can not take any sleeping pills because of my illness (I am on some other drugs which are not compatible)
The adviser said that I need to make a very serious decision and split up with my H.
I am desperate because I still love him. I said that I hope that he will change but adviser said that such kind of people never change((((((((( and that I have to respect myself….

[TheOne]

I can not sleep at all. I can not find strength to defend myself. I can not stop crying. I tried calling WA at 4am when he was sleeping but all lines are busy.

[TheOne]

I tried calling WA today but wasn’t successful. All lines were busy. I can not ask them to call me back because I can talk only when I am not at home. I will try again tomorrow.
He is pushing our landlord to transfer all bills to my name. I am scared.
If all his debts are transferred to my name can they force me to pay? I hope CAB can help me.
Good samaritan, I am glad you are free now. Do not think about your bad past.

[TheOne]

Thank you Lisa.
I visited different organisations 6 months ago. They all said that I had to leave him and divorce but I can not. I am scared.

[TheOne]

All advisers ask me if I still love him. The more I am thinking about it the more I realize that yes I do. I always thought that I could help him to be better, that my love will make him a nice person but NO((((( Now I start thinking that it is my fault that he is so aggressive, that I didn’t put ALL my effort to make his life better…..
I don’t know what to do?

[TheOne]

Hi Have you been to police?

[TheOne]

If you need to talk don’t hesitate to get in touch with me. I appreciate so much your support and would love to help you somehow too.

[TheOne]

I’ve ordered the book. I am reading now a lot of articles and I’ve found so much information about his behaviour and mine.
Thank you very much KIP

[TheOne]

Thank you for the book recommendation. I will read it.
I am so tired of bitterness inside of me and fear to say something to him(((((

[TheOne]

You are absolutely right KIP. I started reading about his behavior 3 years ago when all that nightmare started. He always tried to convince me that it was my fault that he was aggressive. The more I read the more I realized that nothing was wrong with me. He is a very good manipulator.

[TheOne]

All you troubles are behind.
You have to forget about that man.
I will try to get my life back too
x

[TheOne]

OMG! it looks like I am reading my own messages! I have absolutely the same problems!
I ve put on weight because of all that horrible food we eat((((((( When I try to eat something healthy he says that it is expensive. He always asks me how much I paid if I go to the shop on my own.
I even don’t want to think about other men. I just want to become myself again and enjoy my life.
Thank you very much for your support! xx

[TheOne]

Thank you Malachite.
Fortunately I have a friend who supports me.
I am going to my GP next week because I can not sleep at all and cry a lot. I don’t want to ask for antidepressants though but probably I can get some psychological help.

[TheOne]

OMG! It is absolutely the same! I can not move or speak when he is watching TV. I have to eat ONLY what he wants, to watch only programs he likes and so on. He criticizes me all the time, that I don’t have brains, I watch wrong programs, I like “wrong” people.
If I say something he starts screaming at me and threatens with divorce.

[TheOne]

he forced me to give him my bank statements (and I gave him) He saw that I don’t have money so he said that I am useless and I have to do what he says. I can not say anything in reply because I am frightened of his reaction.
He doesn’t let me turn on heating (it is freezing cold now) but he uses heating in his room…
I want to escape from this nightmare…..

[TheOne]

I didn’t sleep last night at all. He is threatening me with divorce now saying that I have to look for a new accommodation. I don’t know what to do really. My friend offered me to stay at her place but in this case he will blame me that I ve left him without paying. He is getting absolutely insane, he screamed yesterday even at our landlord. I can not write a lot about the situation because I am scared he can find what I am writing.
I am going to my friend today so I ll be able to call WA.
THANK YOU for your support. I need it very much.

[TheOne]

Hi Lisa. thank you. He calmed down now. But he says I have to leave house because this is HIS house. I am in another room now crying. I will try to call WA tomorrow when he is away.

[TheOne]

THank you very much for your advice and support x

[TheOne]

I am trembling. He started screaming at me again menacing. I wanted to call 999 but I am scared if he hears that I am calling he will throw me on the street.
I’ll try to call tomorrow WA

[TheOne]

Thank you Malachite.
It is very difficult emotionally for me. One day he can be very nice but then like a devil. I stopped asking him for help because each time when I ask for something he says that he is busy (watching football or playing computer games) or just starts screaming at me. I think he has some psychological problem, he blames all people around him, criticizes, he is very rarely in good mood.
I talked to my friend today about the situation, she also recommended me CAB.
The problem is that I am so emotionally exhausted that when I talk about my problem I start crying and actually can not speak. It is easier for me to write.

[TheOne]

Thank you so much for your support. I am going to Citizens Advice Bureau next week. Hope they can help me in this situation.
He is a gamer, I see him playing computer games all the time and watching porno (probably he pays for that, I don’t know)
I (work) at home sometimes but a few days ago he said that he doesn’t allow me to do that at home anymore. It was the only way for me to have some money. Now I am trapped.
When I try to talk to him and explain that I need help he starts screaming at me.

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