I definitely think it is the “treat the place like a hotel” gem. I used to help out as much as I could with cleaning and running errands, but I couldnt keep up with the lack of appreciation, it was to the point that my parents worked with my future MIL to break up my relationship. the MIL fed my parents lies and instead of talking to me about it, they belived her. obviously hurtful but that is the epitone of the relationship. they have NEVER defended me when I was wronged, occassionally siding with other people. the words of my father “YOU are the problem here”. what i find incredible is that we just had an argument over crackers 😐 because he assumed he could throw them away because i set them on the side of the counter. CRACKERS. the years of resentment come out in these moments of madness. and the resentment started in my toddler years. if I try to point out what they’ve done wrong, it’s either deflected or “I don’t have to answer that” & even “children don’t come with a manual. we tried our best”. I even see their favouritism in the way they treat their dogs. it’s disturbing.
